I watched his face closely as he cribbed and grumbled about how hard he worked and how ungrateful his family was. I was reading for a businessman in his mid thirties doing well. 1 kid and a wife and by what he was telling me the wife worked in a small software company and the kid – about 3 years old stayed with the maid. He ranted and raved about how he always dreamt about his wife opening the door for him, getting him a cup of tea, taking care of him. Here no one cared and the wife often traveled etc etc – it was the maid whom he had to rely on. His wife of course was baffled by his behavior and it had come to a stage where he had given her an ultimatum to move out or leave her job.
We proceeded to shuffle the cards and the core of the reading was 5 of cups.
He was keen that his wife should give up work and he wanted me to convey this to her.
The Tarot card of 5 of cups, depicts a man with his back turned, the body is covered, and there is major readjusting that is suggested . It looks as though someone is dwelling on the past. The turned back is symbolic of regret, loss, and holding oneself in a position of self-blame or self-doubt.
It’s been my experience in readings that those who attract this card have gone through the “three strikes you’re out” phenomenon – or, they have had their own actions come back to them threefold.
This card asks us to follow the tracks of our tears – follow the path our emotions have taken us down, and calmly navigate our way to solutions. There is a chance that we can end up giving ourselves a hard time, and hurting ourselves unnecessarily.
But there’s one important thing to consider when we get disappointed – we feel that way because an expectation we had is not fulfilled, whether by ourselves or by somebody else. It’s important now to give some thought to forgiveness. You don’t forgive others for THEIR sake, or because they “deserve it,” necessarily, you do it for your own sake, because holding on to anger and pain is toxic and bad for you.
Not only that, while you’re busy being angry and full of pain, the person you’re angry with, is often somewhere having a good time! So, now is the time to let go. We have ourselves to accept the inevitable consequence of being alive – into each life a little rain must fall etc.etc.
One thing that is always worth bearing in mind with a card like this is that the feelings which arise when it occurs often scare us into failing to take another risk, failing to make another effort, hiding away where we can’t be disappointed again. But then if we give in to those sort of feelings we’re expecting to be disappointed again, aren’t we?
Interestingly, his card is also it warns us that either we have failed to resolved an old difficulty, or that – realistic or not – our expectations are about to be disappointed.
In this case, the businessman as a child was often left alone with the servants while his parents traveled. There was a constant need to be validated, a need for security which he sought even now in various forms.
Should you encounter such a situation in your life there are some simple questions you must ask yourself to overcome this:
Taking a good look at your expectations. Are they unrealistic?
Are they geared to the abilities and characteristics of the person you hold them of?
Do you expect too much – this is an attitude we tend to apply most viciously to ourselves.
Are you expecting more than you have a right to?
Are you expecting things that the person in question -yourself or somebody else – is simply not able to provide?
If the answer to any of the above is yes, then if you change your expectation, you’ll stop being disappointed.
If you are feeling disappointed by another person’s actions, and then find it within your heart to forgive that person, releasing yourself from the disappointment. You may also need to re-assess your expectations that have led you to this disappointment. Were you expecting too much?
If you can stop your sulking or even crying for a moment, you can open your eyes and see the way out of this disappointing situation. You will have to work on it but it is there.
The Five of Cups also tells you to be thankful for what is left. Do not worry about what cannot be changed. Instead, focus on turning a setback into a step forward.
Never let your tears stop you from seeing what is left over.